Witch

When you think of the word “witch” what is your first thought?

Is it of the ugly old woman with the tall black hat flying on a broomstick with black cat?

Is it of the green faced villain from the Wizard of Oz?

Is it of a boiling cauldron and the three hags dropping strange ingredients into it?

If you said “yes” to any of these, then you have been influenced by the popular stereotypes that have been perpetuated for the last 500 years or so. Those tall black hats, black cats, cauldrons and brooms were all once used by female beer makers but were used against them when men wanted to take over the brewing of beer. The church took those icons and turned them into images of “witchcraft” which in turned were used to kill millions of innocent people all over Europe and North America.

Today, most people think that witches and witchcraft are just metaphysical hocus pocus practiced by new agers. That’s fine, most people can think that all they want, I actually would prefer it if they did. Those of us who call ourselves witches and practice witchcraft, know there’s more to it then that.

I am a witch. I practice witchcraft. I don’t have a black hat but I do have a black cat, cauldron, and a broom. No, I don’t “fly” on my broom but I do use it to clean my sacred space. My cauldron is used to “brew” my magic.

But back to the question, what is a witch?

Simply put, a witch is a practitioner of witchcraft. A witch can be male, female, or somewhere in between. They can dress however they want, use whatever tools they want, work any kind of magic they want.

Witches are still considered to be on the fringes of society. What they do is still not fully understood by society. They are fear and revered in societies across the world. The age of the internet has been good for witches as they can get more business for their talents from anywhere in the world.

Check out this video about witches in Romania:

Are Witches Pagan?

Some are but you don’t have to be. You can be Christian, Muslim, or Atheist, and still be a witch. There are all sorts of different ways to practice witchcraft and you can use any belief system to do it. The only thing you need is an intention and understanding of sympathetic magic.

Witchcraft

The most delicious part about being a witch, is your ability to create spells to manifest your desires. There’s all sorts of ways to create spells, rituals, potions, charms, and other objects of power. Anything you want, you can create, you need only put in the effort. Keep in mind, that magic is a tricky thing and if you are not clear in your mind about what you want, the magic might bring you something you weren’t exactly expecting.

There’s a warning with witchcraft though, whatever you decided to manifest, will come back to you. In Wicca, they call this the threefold law, which states that any action you take in the name of witchcraft will come back to you threefold. This is a good way for witches to think about what they do before they do it.

I can admit that there have been times when I have either wanted to use magic as a way to get vengeance and then there are the times in which I have. You see, I don’t get mad, I get even and using magic as a means to do this is not healthy and kind of detrimental to your good health. Not only will you eventually feel bad for what you have done but you may inadvertently create similar harm to yourself.

I once had a friend who was wildly out of control. She was lying, stealing, and cheating and causing all sorts of mayhem in her path. I created a binding spell to help prevent her from doing any further to herself or others. It worked but it managed to destroy our friendship. She never knew that I did this to her but I did and that was enough. I was young and didn’t understand mental illness or how it works on the brain and thus, I didn’t know that really all she needed was to talk with someone and get the right medication to help her. This is a spell that I deeply regret as I have seen the cascading effects of the spell. There’s no way for me to undo it either without stacking the effects, believe me, I have tried.

The moral of this story is, think before you cast. Speak with your deities, converse with trusted members of your coven, or talk with non-practising friends and family about practical non-magical options. I would advise that anyone who practices witchcraft and calls themselves a witch to always seek the non-magical methods of problem solving first. If you must add magic, use supportive magic on yourself and not others unless asked to do so. Never perform magical on a non-consenting individual, including pets. As much as you may want to hex Trump right now, hold off, you have no idea what you might bring about in the process.

Normally, I would never discuss my past uses of magic but in the spirit of education, I will share some of my stories on this blog. I keep most of my spell work recorded in my Book of Secrets. I will share a little how-to on keeping a Book of Secrets, or otherwise known as a Book of Shadows or a Grimoire, in a follow up post.

If you have any topics that you would like me to share, please comment and let me know.

Blessed be,

Priestess Spiritsong

Completion of my 28 Days of Walking the Path of the Goddess

With the past full moon, I completed my month of working with the Goddess. It was certainly an interesting month of personal and spiritual growth. The first part of the month was spent focused on daily devotional work and the second part was focused on getting out and living my life with being mindful of the Goddess.

I have to admit, that planning a two week vacation in the middle of my 28 days might not have been the best idea but it certainly showed me that I am not really good with daily devotionals when my life is not in its regular day to day business. Instead of sitting down in front of an altar on my vacation, I instead went and visited places where I get the presence of the Goddess and while there, I also found the presence of the God.

The best part of my focus on the Goddess this past month was the return of my Red Moon. I have never been so thankful for its return in my life. With it being back, I finally feel the release from the past year. It felt like I was whole again.

My plan for this month is to fine tune my devotional practice to fit better in with my life. I also hope to be less busy this month. As the summer whines down and the chill starts to return to the air, I want to focus more on my harvest and prep for winter (it’s coming after all). I have already started baking bread and my knitting. With this prep, I also want to bring my Goddess and God practice into balance as well. I learned a few things while at a pagan festival a few weeks back that I want to put into my practice. I will share more about this in a future post.

I have also set up a group on Facebook called “Call of the Wild” and it will be for setting up events in my home city of Kelowna that focus on pagan practices in the outdoors such as hunting, fishing, gathering, martial skills, archery. There will also be cooking, knitting, sewing, and other domestics of the home with a focus on natural materials gathered locally. I have a Facebook page called “Call of the Wild Pagan” that will be used to sharing any resources I find online too.

This is a project that my coven and I will be working on together. We are just about at our two year anniversary and it’s time we stepped out into the public a little more. We will all be in our third year of growth, the Tree stage as we call it and it will be time to deepen our roots. I will talk more about our coven’s practices in a future post though.

Blessed Be,

Priestess Spiritsong Dreamweaver

Last week of my Goddess path walking 

I am nearly at the next full moon and about to finish up my 28 Days of Walking the Path of the Goddess. It’s been challenging to get my devotional practice in while on vacation. That being said, I have done something a little different while I  have  been on vacation. I have been journaling along the way and taking quiet moments of meditation.

When I get back, I will share some pictures of my trip with you. In the meantime, check out my Instagram feed for current pictures.

Blessed be!

Priestess Spiritsong Dreamweaver

Return of the Red Moon

A couple months back, I wrote an article about going on DEPO and how it affected my Red Moon Cycle. I am happy to follow up on that article and say that the Red Moon has returned to its regular cycle.

At last, this terrible nightmare is over!

A couple months back, I wrote an article about going on DEPO and how it affected my Red Moon Cycle. I am happy to follow up on that article and say that the Red Moon has returned to its regular cycle.

Why is this important? There are some of us in the pagan community who use our cycle to connect with the moon and the Goddess divine energies. Having cut myself off from my Red Moon by artificially changing it using hormones to keep myself from getting pregnant when I had a partner who didn’t even want to be with me was completely pointless. Of all the bad choices I have made this year, this was the worst one. I put myself through months of depression (which led to the breakup of that relationship) and emotional roller coaster from hell. It took over three months for my Red Moon Cycle to return to normal after the effects of DEPO were supposed to have worn off.

My point is, I have learned a valuable lesson about body and emotional awareness. I will not take any birth control that forces my body out of its normal hormonal functions again and I will not let a partner force me to choose between being with them and going on birth control again. I know now that if someone wants to be with me, they will not only accept my choices but will encourage them. If they don’t, I won’t negotiate the issue with them. Going on any kind of hormonal birth control is a deal-breaker with me.

Ideally, I would like to be with someone who also wants children and would like to share that experience and task with me. At this time, I would like to have one child but I am open to the idea of two. I have a feeling that I would be one of those hippy moms with the cloth diapers hanging on the clothesline with my own baby food made in the fridge. I would likely also be one of those moms that stayed home most of the time or maybe work part time if there was a financial need for it. That’s all future dreaming though, I am certainly not ready to take on that momentous task just yet.

To come back to the point, I welcome back my Red Moon Cycle with open arms and joy. I can’t believe that for the first time in my life, I am actually excited to have it return. I know myself better when I am on my cycle then when it’s gone. I felt absolutely not like myself when it was gone. Now that it is back, I can continue where I left off with my awareness study of it. I will post another follow up blog more about how you can deepen your relationship with your Red Moon Cycle.

Blessed Be!

Priestess Spritisong Dreamweaver

Walking the Path of the Goddess: Week 2 Summery

This second week of my 28 Days Walking the Path of the Goddess daily devotional challenge has definitely seen some ups and downs.

This second week of my 28 Days Walking the Path of the Goddess daily devotional challenge has definitely seen some ups and downs. The week started out pretty rough but ended pretty good. I would say that this week forced me to really take a hard look at what I have been to myself during my recovery from my break up.

Let’s start with the good things this week. I enjoyed a quiet week with not as much busy stuff going on. I had a nice visit with my parents on Friday. I was able to go to my friend’s wedding. It was a lovely event at her parents place. She looked amazing and her new husband was weepy when he saw her. I had a wonderful visit with some of my oldest friends.

However, the whole event was somewhat shadowed because I was supposed to have been there with my ex. I ended up with an empty chair next to me at the table. I know that it was actually for a friend of ours who didn’t end up making it out to the wedding but it ended being a symbol for that part of my life where I utterly failed. I couldn’t help but look at it and be a little sad. My ex and I had been planning a trip to follow this wedding out to Alberta. It kind of dug at me as I drove back home after the wedding.

I originally wrote a post before this which I have titled “Dirty Laundry”. It’s a list of all the bad things that happened in my previous relationship. I am not going to post it but it was an interesting thing for me to look back at and read. It’s easy to find all the flaws in your relationship but it’s much harder to see the good things.

For the last six weeks, I had started to think that my previous relationship was a waste of my time. I am starting to come the other side of that. It wasn’t a waste of time, it was actually a good time for me. I had some of the best experiences while in that relationship. While the ending kind of sucked, the majority of it was pretty good.

Here’s my “Clean Laundry” list of what was good about my last relationship:

I had a partner who made me laugh, challenged my ideas of thinking, taught me new games, introduced me to great friends, and shared their loving family with me. He was fun to go hiking with. He was awesome with my dog. He was an amazing cook. He was hardworking and passionate about his store. He got along with my family and friends. He was dependable when there was an emergency.

What I have to remember is that I am only responsible for how I feel. No one else can feel what I feel, nor can they control what I am feeling. So when I feel hurt, anger, love, or happiness, it’s all on me to process those feelings. This past week, my path with the Goddess has been a challenge to keep my heart open and allow myself room to breathe, relax, feel, witness, and allow. I have unloaded all my by present thoughts and emotions on her while in my devotionals. It’s helping me process the waves that life has been delivering me.

One of my favorite musicians took his own life this week. It was yet another swift reminder of the crippling effects depression has on the world. There is great sadness happening everywhere right now. People are not able to see a way of out it and thus think it’s just time to end their lives.

Suicide does not end the pain, it just gives it to someone else. These words echo through my mind when I think of my friends and family when they are getting to the lowest points in their lives. It echoes in my mind when I think of my own moments of depression. They come and go much like moments of joy and happiness.

I spent some time talking with my family about our history of depression and how we deal with it. We are no strangers to the effects of depression and suicide, we have lost too many members of our family to it. Knowing that, I keep myself aware of my states of happiness. I have to be aware that there is the potential in my emotional state of being to fall in the same hole that my ancestors fell into. I think that my meditation practice has helped me process mental stress ever since I was in high school. That’s when I started following the ways of the Goddess and God.

This week, the two days that I didn’t do my daily devotionals were the hardest on me for my feelings of depression. I was too busy to actually take the time to do the devotionals. That’s the excuse I told myself but I actually could have made the time to meditate or journal. I ended up sleeping instead of doing those tasks. For me, oversleeping is a clear sign that something is wrong. Since I am about to go into week three, I have a chance to reset again. I am really glad that I decided to do this 28 day practice. It’s given me a lot to think about and reflect on.

~Priestess Spiritsong Dreamweaver

Day 9 of My Goddess Path Work: Having a Bad Day

My daily devotional practices have been great for making me feel at peace when I am already having a good day but yesterday, I did not have a good day.

My daily devotional practices have been great for making me feel at peace when I am already having a good day but yesterday, I did not have a good day.

I went out to enjoy the season premiere of Game of Thrones with my two coven mates and my ex showed up. Earlier in the week, I had contacted him to ask if he had planned on being there. I wanted to know so that I could prepare myself to see him again. The last thing I wanted, was to feel angry or upset while trying to enjoy my show. I hadn’t actually expected him to show up though.

The moment I saw him, the bottom fell right out of my stomach. All my feelings of anger towards him came flaring back up and I had to take a few calming breaths to try and relax but it didn’t work. I decided to just let them sit and try not to act on them.  He ended up sitting with us and for a little while it felt like old times but I knew that something was different between us, I felt cold and chilled the whole time he was sitting with us. There was a distance between us and I don’t know if we will ever be able to be the friends we once were.

I believe in being more mindful of your actions so that you can recognise when you are starting to repeat behaviours that are less then helpful. For me, my challenge is letting go of those feelings of anger when I see him and the hurt that they cause me so that I don’t lash out. When he says things like, “You seem happier, I am happier now too,” I can’t help feel hurt by that and fire back, “I am happier.” And then I know, I have lashed out in anger and it’s a downwards spiral from there of just hurtful words coming out of my mouth. I can’t help it though, it makes me feel better when they are out there in the open rather then holding them in.

I am happier though. I am happier because he’s not controlling my life anymore. I don’t feel guilty when I want to go do things that I enjoy. I don’t plan my days around what someone else wants to do. I do what I want, when I want, and how I want to do it. If I am at a party, I stay as long as I feel like. If there’s a yoga class I want to take, I go to it.

Does this mean that I am not a little sad? I only get sad when I think about all the time I wasted on us. We wasted time in figuring out that we wanted different things from life and I can’t get that time back.

I am 34 years old and I want to start a family someday. I want to go back to school and become a teacher. I have learned that I am by far better off without him in my life and much happier. I can focus on my yoga, my Priestess path, my friends, my family, and my dog. I can be there for my coven mates as they plan their wedding. I can hold space for friends dealing with grief and loss.

When I got home last night, I dedicated my devotional practice to working through the emotions of anger and hurt but letting the Goddess carry me. My yoga practice was focused on moving that energy through the body and letting me work through it. I did some heart opening poses and spent a good deal of time in supported fish, which keeps your heart wide open.

I switched up the order of my devotional practice to yoga, then journal, then card reading, then mantra, and then, instead of quiet time with the Goddess, I unloaded all that I was feeling to her. All of my angry, hurt, and frustration. I asked my matron Goddesses, Diana, Yemaya, and Skadi for their guidance, wisdom, and strength. I also did a meditation where I put all of my good and bad experiences with my ex into a box and put it in my heart altar (a construct in my mind that I created in my yoga teacher training).

I felt more peaceful once I headed to bed and hugged my dog for comfort. He’s the brightest blessing in my life and always there for me emotionally. I can count on him to be there when I need cuddles. If anything were to happen to him, I don’t know what I would do.

Bright blessings,

~Priestess Spiritsong Dreamweaver

First Week of the 28 Days of the Walking the Path of the Goddess

This week has been awesome for me. I have really enjoyed setting aside time to sing my mantra on my mala beads, sit in silence with the Goddess, practice yoga, and write in my journal.

This week has been awesome for me. I have really enjoyed setting aside time to sing my mantra on my mala beads, sit in silence with the Goddess, practice yoga, and write in my journal.

To start my devotional practice, I do some yoga. It’s usually about 10-15 minutes of a practice. Then I sit on my meditation set and do my 108 mala mantra ring. Then I sit in silence with the Goddess and allow her to be present with me. At the end, I pull out my journal and write about my day, my thoughts, and my feelings. The practice tends to take me anywhere between 30 minutes to an hour depending on what I end up doing in my yoga practice or my silent time.

I think that I picked a really good time to start this practice. My life has been moving in all sorts of directions I had not anticipated in the last few months. I am on a pause from teaching yoga, I am single again, I just about lost a close friend to depression, and my job is no longer challenging me and I have no growth aspirations within in.

While doing this practice, I realized that it’s time for me to move forward with my life. I decided to start the ball rolling with getting my teaching degree. I had a meeting with an academic adviser and we discussed what I would need to do to apply and what I should do while I am saving up the funds to return to school for upgrading. I have been advised to contact the administration of the local schools to offer up my services as a volunteer in the schools. I didn’t even know that this was something I could do but apparently it’s very common to have prospective students of the teaching program do this.

I also need to add a few missing courses and upgrade my GPA. I will be enrolling in the human kinetics courses and the Okanagan Collage in order to get the 24 credits I need to specialize in teaching physical education along with history.  I am really excited about this because it will not only be helpful when looking for teaching jobs but it will also help my yoga teaching by gaining a better understanding of how the body works and memorization of human anatomy.

I expect to enroll at the Okanagan Collage in 2019 to start the upgrading process. It will likely take me about two years to upgrade the 10 classes that I need but hopefully by then, I will know for certain that teaching is what I would like to do. Volunteering in the high schools around town will give me the opportunity to do that. I have been very resistant to returning to school because I do not wish to go back into debt, so this time, I will be paying for all of the courses myself and I am giving myself time to save up to do it.

I am not giving up on being a yoga teacher though. I have been making sure to attend a yoga class once a week for the last few. It’s been good for me to just be in class again. I have missed learning and being in a class setting. I am learning about how the flow of the classes at Tandava work so that when I get the email about upcoming fill ins are posted, I can volunteer to help out.

In conclusion, this week has been very good for moving energy in my life to the places that I need it. I can’t wait to see what shifts in the three weeks left.

Blessed Be,

Priestess Spiritsong Dreamweaver